“Blessed are the peacemakers for they shall be called sons of God.” (Matthew 5:9)

I recently had to initiate an uncomfortable conversation with my close friend. My first instinct in my flesh was to either argue to make my voice heard or to end the friendship altogether. Soon after I had brought the situation to them, I realized I had made my first mistake. I didn’t consult the Lord first. I had not sought His peace, guidance, and wisdom through this conversation.

“Come sit with Me,” the Lord said to me. Before proceeding, I had to step back, reevaluate my assumptions and ideas, and dig deep to understand why I was hurt before I started pointing out the setback I had with this person. After sitting with the Lord, I was graciously given the knowledge that if I choose to approach them with humility and grace, rather than pride and hostility, then the Lord would be pleased regardless of what the outcome would be. Were my hurt feelings valid? Yes. Did that mean I chose to disregard their side of the story? Absolutely not. Would I possibly need to apologize? Yes. And that destroyed my ego.

The book of Romans describes this beautiful phenomenon as “living peaceably.” The author, Paul, writes to the Christians in Rome, saying “If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men” (Romans 12:18). Whenever there is a misunderstanding or disagreement, we are called by God to make amends. Not only is it a command, but it makes room for the body of Christ to grow together in humility. How we resolve, handle, or avoid conflicts matter. Psalms 133:1 says, “How good and pleasant it is when God’s people live together in unity.” It must be one of our endeavors to dwell in unity with the family of God because it is His desire for us.

We must recognize that every human being was made in the “image of God” (Genesis 1:27). It will help guide our perspectives on those we may not initially agree with. I am often entangled with my emotions first and then tend to react, rather than seek God in my response. Having much emotion, a big personality, or a bold spirit is beautiful. However, we must learn how to steward them well, lest we destroy our sisters and brothers made in God’s image.

Though to live at peace with all people may seem impossible. Let’s be honest – our flesh thrives off of drama and pride. Let’s be transparent with our Father and pursue the will of His heart so that in the end, we encourage the heart of the other. Dear friend, may you not grow weary in doing the will of the Father but instead be full of joy.

Prayer:

Dear Abba Father,

Help me dwell in peace with all people, especially Your people. When I am faced with a disagreement of some sort or even betrayal, help me humbly approach the situation at hand. Most importantly, help me to forgive them. Help me to honor You through my words, actions, and thoughts. I willingly lay down my pride in exchange for Your glory and grace.

In Jesus’ Name,

Amen.